5. What to talk about on a first date?
When it comes to conversation, a woman will want to experience positive feelings while she’s talking to you. Making her feel good during a conversation is essential to generating major attraction.
The feminine essence is all about emotions; if you can trigger the right ones within your date, she’ll pin them on you. Play your cards right, and she’ll inexplicably be feeling very good the next time she thinks about you.
In this case, being guilty by association is a good thing.
Focus on upbeat topics that serve a springboard for other positive things to talk about later on. For instance, try sharing interesting anecdotes.
A good way of doing this is by telling her about the time you got into a funny situation but came out of it OK. The point here is to give her an idea that you’re a relatively optimistic guy who can keep his cool and take the bad stuff in stride.
Her subconscious needs some assurance that you can handle life’s curveballs because you’ll eventually have to protect her from the same stuff later on. It’s simply her feminine side seeking the rock-steadiness of your masculinity.
So obviously you should skip any subjects that could bring down the good vibe. Conversation no-no’s include ex-partners, political affairs, anything related to bodily functions (not even as a joke), violence and any other negative stuff that will turn her off.
And if you really want to seal the deal, you can talk about romantic stuff without coming off as cheesy. What I like to do is introduce mushy topics in a fairly indirect way.
This also lays down the foundations for the latter stages of courtship, but anyway lets not get ahead of ourselves
For instance, try bringing up a romantic situation you heard about from a friend and tell your date what you think about it. After that, get her talking about the subject by asking for her take on it.
Let me give you an example: “You know, I think it’s weird in a cool way when two people just connect and sort of fall into their own little world. I mean, one minute you’re baring your souls to each other and then it’s back to reality the next. The transition can be jarring but exciting at the same time. Have you ever felt like that?”
Of course, there are a hundred other questions you can pattern in the same way. Get creative and think of people, places and situations which will help you think of something to ask her during your date.
Good conversationalists make it a point to look into the other person’s eyes while she’s talking. It’s OK for your gaze to be elsewhere as you’re talking (while occasionally looking at her), but look into her eyes with a reassuring smile when it’s her turn to speak.
Trust me – your undivided attention is one of the most powerful tools to win her over. While you’re at it, don’t be stingy with the compliments. Listen to what she has to say so you can appropriately praise something important to her.
When she says, “I’m more comfortable doing freelance work than being in an office all day“, you could respond by saying: “That’s cool, I’ve always admired women who can earn their keep on their own terms rather than marching to someone else’s beat.“