Picture the scene:
You are in a bar, the music is fantastic, there is a great crowd of people, you are hanging out with your mates and having a great time. Suddenly you spot this amazing looking woman standing on her own looking a bit lost in the counter. She is exactly your type, smoking hot and oh so lonely. You find enough courage to walk over to her and use some of the seduction tips we talked about in the previous post. Things are going great, your conversation with her is flowing, she is smiling, laughing and she is clearly becoming more interested and more attracted as you continue.
But then “it” happens … and “it” is a story I’ve heard far too many times from guys.
Call it a brain fart, a blank mind or simply being lost for words. The only thing that matters is, it brings the conversation to a complete and utter halt and you can feel her attraction levels for you dropping to the floor faster than a kebab carrying drunk slapper in stilettos.
You panic and your mind starts racing: “What can you do to pull the conversational nose-dive back into the high flying interaction it was? How DO you get her back into the game?”
Simple: you dig into your toolbox. Your social toolbox, that is.
I’ll share with you my absolute favourite conversation-saving tool.
This is a guaranteed way to save any conversation with a woman, PLUS it’s so perfectly constructed, that it easily allows for sexual innuendo to get her mind “in the right place” while still being in the context of pure, NON-NEEDY and FUN banter.
It’s a little game I like to call Snog-Marry-Avoid (or “SMA” for short) after the popular BBC TV show and it will be your new best friend.
When you deploy the SMA game any stalling conversation will instantly be turned around.
You will leap beyond the average lame guys who approach her with the same old boring pickup lines and dull conversations.
This is how to talk to women:
When you start to run out of things to say, just as you can feel that her attraction is about to start dipping down…
You turn to her, and you say:
“Hey, do you want to play a quick little game?”
Watch as her eyes sparkle with curiosity. This is a departure from the normal night-time drivel she’s used to dealing with. She will almost certainly invite you to proceed.
Continue to the game. Start to glance around the room, assessing the other guys you see and start to point them out one by one and asking her “ok, so would you snog, marry or avoid him?”
She’ll laugh at first. Then she’ll look over at your target and size him up.
Choose different types of guys representing the spectrum of personality types and behaviours.
A fit sporty bloke, a chav, a nerdy guy, a handsome stylish type, a typical tattooed bad-boy rocker, a smart business type guy, … you can make up your own list as you go, it doesn’t matter.
What matters is getting her to play along, and by doing so the game will help you to find out a few important things.
First of all you will get an insight into what she values in a man and how she operates. She will give very direct clues to how she wants to be seduced.
For instance if she says “snog” to the rocker dude, “marry” to the nerdy guy, and “avoid” to the guy in a suit…then you can guess that she’s got a wild side, she doesn’t like guys with a lot of structure, and she’s a secret nerd.
Think about that… she’ll basically be giving you HUGE hints into how to seduce her.
If you know the 4 things that every girl needs to know before she thinks about sleeping with a guy, it will pretty much be deal-closer. But more about that in a bit.
Second, continue your banter and keep teasing her. This is so crucial to the first stage of the interaction.
Keep your conversation light, non-needy (teasing her playfully) and fun!
Make fun and silly projections about who you guess she’d snog, marry and avoid.
It will be remarkably easy as she’s alternating between giggling at her own quirky tastes, cringing at the losers, and switching to her “ooh yeah baby” voice when she talks about the guys that turn her on.
Which brings me to the third point… talking about who she would snog and who she would avoid will have one big effect: SHE WILL GET TURNED ON.
Remember, you are asking her to do the work and to bring the thought “who do I want to snog?” into her mind. And all that in the context of an experience that was generated by and shared with you… and only you.
Finally… she will see that you are 100% confident in your sexuality and your ability to attract women. After all you feel able to confidently discuss the theoretical thought of her sleeping with other men, and that doesn’t threaten you.
99.99% of guys would get angry or would be terrified at the suggestion that she even look at another guy when they are talking to her!
Your confidence here will be very, very sexy to women.
After playing this game for even a few minutes, she will be extremely turned on by your creativity, your playfulness, and your confidence…
This sets you up PERFECTLY to transition into the next stage of interaction, build upon the sexual energy in this game, especially if you’ve been properly mixing in the right “sexual triggers” that all women have.
This is all part of the 4 things that every girl needs to decide to sleep with a guy.
If you haven’t learned about the sexual triggers yet, stop everything and watch this presentation (this short video will change how you attract women forever!) :
p.s. “SMA” is a great tool to have in your toolbox. There are several others that will absolutely make meeting women a breeze when you go out.
“The Free Drink Technique” and “The Kiss Technique” are a couple that changed my life forever when I discovered them.
If you want to learn more about the sexual triggers and discover these amazing secret tools have a look at this short video: “Discover these 4 secrets women will never reveal.”
This article comes courtesy of Joshua Pellicer at the Tao of Badass.
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